Siguro nagtataka ka why i started this post using my native language.. To answer that, ang hirap kaya mag English! Sa lahat ng post ko ilang blood bag at ilang tissue rolls ang inubos ko para lang makapag sulat ng straight English so i've decided to start writing tagalog-english post so the person who'll read it out loud will sound like a conyo and para medyo sesyal.. (Say "sosyal" with arte para maporma).
Kidding aside na .. This post is about how my life experiences mold me as a person so i ended up making a list of What the adult world taught me throughout the years.
People come and go
It is true but we cannot blame them for doing that. Every person needs to grow and go on a different path but it doesn't mean that they will be forgotten. Sometimes the best lessons are learned from the people who left us broken, we may be pained at first but soon we'll be thankful that at some point in our lives your paths crossed and it was the best experience. It will be too selfish for us kung pipigilan natin silang umalis, there will come a point in your lifie that you will outgrow your friends and will no longer feel the same feeling you had before towards them. The older you grow you build bigger circle of friends and you will also know who are for keeps and who aren't. For me, knowing who my real friends is the most painful pero fulfilling part of my adult life .. I won't mind making my circle small as long as i could sleep peacefully at night knowing that all i considered friends cares. To the real friends reading this - Cheers!!
A friend will always be a friend
Friendship isn't measured by presence nor how long you've known each other. You know it's real when despite of not always being together and having busy schedules you always find time to catch up or at least say hello or hi thru IM/FB/viber/text/call or any form of communication. You may not expect his/her 100% attendance on your life's special events but a true friend will always be present on the times that you needed them the most. It may be the time where you needed direction or it could be a time when you're feeling down, nowhere to go and got no one to talk to. A true friend will always be a friend (sorry daming hugot, nasaktan eh!).
Feelings fades
Indeed, but it doesn't mean that we have to leave the person and look for a new one. Love is a lifelong commitment, it's a contract between two people investing their feelings and it requires effort on keeping the love alive but if things starts to get dirty i think it's okay to let go. I was young and impulsive, i don't know what is the difference between love and infatuation i got so soaked and drowned on what i was feeling. Para akong nasa alapaap, daig ko pa ang naka drugs. Noong panahon na yon nakalimutan ko ang isang bagay, nakalimutan kong magtira para sa sarili ko that's why when our relationship started to get rocky i was devastated. Petty fights became major fight, pareho na kaming nasasakal and worst nagkakasakitan na kami emotionally. That part of my life was really painful because i don't have the support system. Ilang taon ring umikot ang mundo ko sa iisang tao, lumayo ako sa mga kaibigan ko, ang dami kong namiss na special occasions to the point na ang laki na ng tampo nila sakin at iniwan na nila ako, wala e inlove and aside from that i am not the kind of person na basta basta na lang magdadrag ng isang tao sa problema ko kasi i believe that the more people get involved the more things gets messy. As much as possible sasarilihin ko sya hanggat kaya ko. I made a mess so i will clean it myself so sinarili ko lang lahat yun and i was lucky that never pumasok sa kokote ko ang mag give up. Akala ko katapusan ko na pero naka move on ako, yung feelings ko towards that person nawala and i found a man that i won't mind seeing every waking day of my life.
My concept of L-O-V-E
Love is perfect but it could be dangerous too, sabi nga sa kanta ng Queen "too much love will kill you" some people take it literally though. When i was a kid, naintroduce sa akin yung love na may "happy-ever-after" concept but don't get me wrong here ha? Hindi ko sinasabing mali yung kinalakihan ko and mas lalong hindi ko sinasabi na hindi nangyayari yung true love na yon. It happens, oo yung mala-fairy tale love story. Pero sa paglipas ng panahon natuto akong maging realistic at mas na eexpose ako sa mga bagay bagay. I start to learn to know kung ano yung sincere sa 100% na bola. If you will ask me kung ano ba talaga ang love para sakin, hmmmm (scroll down)
Ang love?
1. Perfect yan, kaya medyo kontra ako dun sa kanta ni Barry Manilow na "somewhere down the road" kasi if it was the right love in the first place it will never be on a wrong time. (I am not saying that you should agree with me, ito ay pawang opinyon lamang). Everything will be perfect, gagawa at gagawa ng paraan si Dr. Love, si Kupido o kung anumang pwersa ng pagibig yan na hindi nakikita para lang mag krus yung landas nyo, pero utang na loob naman huwag mong iasa dun sa bagay/anuman na hindi mo nakikita para lang makarating sa minamahal mo yung nararamdaman mo. Effort effort rin tayo pag may time. Minsan masama rin ang maging torpe pero mas masama rin yung sobrang yabang kaya please lang dun ka lang sa gitna.
2. Masakit yan e, lalo na pag sa maling tao mo naibigay o kaya yung may mahal ng iba. Daig mo pa yung namatayan o kaya para kang nasa one-way road tapos ikaw papunta sa oppisite direction, for short marami kang mababangga tapos injured kapa. Nakakamatay ang ganitong pagibig kaya doble ingat tayo - buti na lang graduate na ako dito.
3. Kapag naman nireciprocate ng taong pinagbigyan mo ng love mo, aba para ka na ring nanalo sa lotto. Pero mas maganda sana kung mahal kana niya tapos nanalo kapa sa lotto - pero sabi nga nila "you can't have it all"
4. Nakakabobo, yes you read it right, kahit gaano kapa katalino mapa cum laude, magna cum laude, summa cum laude or honorable mention ka man kapag tinamaan ka nyan daig mo pa ang pakiramdam ng nag eexam o kaya yung tinawag ka ng teacher mo para sa recitation pero wala kang maisagot, nakaka mental block!
5. Nakakaubos ng lakas lalo na kung ikaw lang yung nag eeffort. Akala ko dati mga beki lang yung nakakaubos ng lakas pero mali pala ako, may mas matindi pa pala dun.
6. Pero isa sa pinakamasarap na pakiramdam kasi pag inlove ka may inspirasyon ka (the brighter side of being inlove).
7. It should always be right, it should bring the best out of you pero you'll know it's wrong when it is already bringing the beast out of you. Kung ganun na ang nangyayari aba mag isip isip kana "is this still love? or just pure attachment?".
8. Is simple yet people make it soooooo complicated. Mahal mo at alam mong mahal ka rin pero magpapaligoy ligoy pa. Mahal mo, hindi ka mahal pero mamahalin mo pa rin kahit forever kang friendzoned, sisterzoned, seenzoned at kung ano ano pang may zoned sa dulo mairelate lang sa current situation nyo. Mahal mo na pero takot ka, kung takot ka bakit mo minahal? You shouldn't entertained the feeling in the first place if you're not ready, kasi you are just wasting both of your time. Sorry alam ko hindi tayo close pero ang sakit ko na magsalita (that thing called tadhana syndrome). Naniniwala ako na kung mahal mo panindigan mo, huwag kang matakot masaktan. Push lang, kung hindi ka mahal then look for another one malay mo hindi pa pala siya si "The one" isa lang pala syang instrumento para kapag dating ni "The one" handang handa kana, nanginginig at mainit init pa. (FYI itong part na ito ay R18 - aral muna bago landi)
Bottom line: Love is perfect, but people are not so okay lang magkamali pero huwag mo naman gawing hobby you should also learn from your experiences to be a better lover in the future.
Painful regrets
There's nothing more painful than regrets.
Aside sa pag bebreak nyong jowa mo isa pa sa pinakamasakit na dumarating sa buhay ng isa tao yung regrets. "Sana ganito" "sana ganun" "sana pala nakinig ako" "sana hindi ako nasaktan". Siguro sa buhay ko ngayon, kaya ako naging ganito na easy-going, go lang ng go (parang globe commercial lang lol), yung tipong "young, wild and free - living" dahil takot akong mawala ng hindi ko man lang naexperience yung mga bagay na kailan man hindi matutumbasan ng pera, yung mga bagay na maibabahagi ko sa mga apo ko pag tanda ko. Gusto ko kasi marinig sa kanila na "alam mo ba yung lola ko, ang cool nyan! Super naenjoy nya yung pagkabata nya, gusto kong maging katulad nya, hindi sya nakisabay sa norm at hindi sya natakot maging iba sa komunidad na kinabibilangan nya" oh diba ang sarap? Gusto ko yung ganun, ayoko yung buhay na work hard today, then travel later or do what you want later. Baka laspag na ako bago ko pa magawa yung mga bagay na sana nuon ko pa ginawa. As of now i only have one regret, it is i was so materialistic and i shop so much and i regret not saving kahit konting part ng sahod ko (syempre until now regret pa rin lol)
People and differences
To the places i've been i have learned alot of things:
1. Natuto akong makibagay
2. Natuto akong magadjust
3. Natuto akong maging sensitive.
4. Natutunan kong hindi lahat ng tao pare pareho, may kanya kanya tayong paniniwala at iba't ibang kultura we just have to respect each other, yes! it is the key to a harmonious relationship with other people.
5. In this world i learned to be open minded and because of that i learned to connect with other people most especially to the locals and adapt their ways but it doesn't mean that i have to forget my own principles and beliefs, it is just a matter of acceptance.
Kaya i will always be proud for being Filipino and i love our county (yes! Loud and proud) kasi diversed tayo, san kapa diba sa 7,107 islands ng pilipinas hinati hati tayo sa iba't ibang probinsya, may iba't ibang dialects at paniniwala pero we are still considered as one.
End note for this post - uulitin ko po ang mga nakasulat sa taas ay pawang opinyon at mga bagay na natutunan ko sa dalawangpu't apat na panunuluyan ko sa mundo.
Kidding aside na .. This post is about how my life experiences mold me as a person so i ended up making a list of What the adult world taught me throughout the years.
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It is true but we cannot blame them for doing that. Every person needs to grow and go on a different path but it doesn't mean that they will be forgotten. Sometimes the best lessons are learned from the people who left us broken, we may be pained at first but soon we'll be thankful that at some point in our lives your paths crossed and it was the best experience. It will be too selfish for us kung pipigilan natin silang umalis, there will come a point in your lifie that you will outgrow your friends and will no longer feel the same feeling you had before towards them. The older you grow you build bigger circle of friends and you will also know who are for keeps and who aren't. For me, knowing who my real friends is the most painful pero fulfilling part of my adult life .. I won't mind making my circle small as long as i could sleep peacefully at night knowing that all i considered friends cares. To the real friends reading this - Cheers!!
A friend will always be a friend
Friendship isn't measured by presence nor how long you've known each other. You know it's real when despite of not always being together and having busy schedules you always find time to catch up or at least say hello or hi thru IM/FB/viber/text/call or any form of communication. You may not expect his/her 100% attendance on your life's special events but a true friend will always be present on the times that you needed them the most. It may be the time where you needed direction or it could be a time when you're feeling down, nowhere to go and got no one to talk to. A true friend will always be a friend (sorry daming hugot, nasaktan eh!).
Feelings fades
Indeed, but it doesn't mean that we have to leave the person and look for a new one. Love is a lifelong commitment, it's a contract between two people investing their feelings and it requires effort on keeping the love alive but if things starts to get dirty i think it's okay to let go. I was young and impulsive, i don't know what is the difference between love and infatuation i got so soaked and drowned on what i was feeling. Para akong nasa alapaap, daig ko pa ang naka drugs. Noong panahon na yon nakalimutan ko ang isang bagay, nakalimutan kong magtira para sa sarili ko that's why when our relationship started to get rocky i was devastated. Petty fights became major fight, pareho na kaming nasasakal and worst nagkakasakitan na kami emotionally. That part of my life was really painful because i don't have the support system. Ilang taon ring umikot ang mundo ko sa iisang tao, lumayo ako sa mga kaibigan ko, ang dami kong namiss na special occasions to the point na ang laki na ng tampo nila sakin at iniwan na nila ako, wala e inlove and aside from that i am not the kind of person na basta basta na lang magdadrag ng isang tao sa problema ko kasi i believe that the more people get involved the more things gets messy. As much as possible sasarilihin ko sya hanggat kaya ko. I made a mess so i will clean it myself so sinarili ko lang lahat yun and i was lucky that never pumasok sa kokote ko ang mag give up. Akala ko katapusan ko na pero naka move on ako, yung feelings ko towards that person nawala and i found a man that i won't mind seeing every waking day of my life.
My concept of L-O-V-E
Love is perfect but it could be dangerous too, sabi nga sa kanta ng Queen "too much love will kill you" some people take it literally though. When i was a kid, naintroduce sa akin yung love na may "happy-ever-after" concept but don't get me wrong here ha? Hindi ko sinasabing mali yung kinalakihan ko and mas lalong hindi ko sinasabi na hindi nangyayari yung true love na yon. It happens, oo yung mala-fairy tale love story. Pero sa paglipas ng panahon natuto akong maging realistic at mas na eexpose ako sa mga bagay bagay. I start to learn to know kung ano yung sincere sa 100% na bola. If you will ask me kung ano ba talaga ang love para sakin, hmmmm (scroll down)
Ang love?
1. Perfect yan, kaya medyo kontra ako dun sa kanta ni Barry Manilow na "somewhere down the road" kasi if it was the right love in the first place it will never be on a wrong time. (I am not saying that you should agree with me, ito ay pawang opinyon lamang). Everything will be perfect, gagawa at gagawa ng paraan si Dr. Love, si Kupido o kung anumang pwersa ng pagibig yan na hindi nakikita para lang mag krus yung landas nyo, pero utang na loob naman huwag mong iasa dun sa bagay/anuman na hindi mo nakikita para lang makarating sa minamahal mo yung nararamdaman mo. Effort effort rin tayo pag may time. Minsan masama rin ang maging torpe pero mas masama rin yung sobrang yabang kaya please lang dun ka lang sa gitna.
2. Masakit yan e, lalo na pag sa maling tao mo naibigay o kaya yung may mahal ng iba. Daig mo pa yung namatayan o kaya para kang nasa one-way road tapos ikaw papunta sa oppisite direction, for short marami kang mababangga tapos injured kapa. Nakakamatay ang ganitong pagibig kaya doble ingat tayo - buti na lang graduate na ako dito.
3. Kapag naman nireciprocate ng taong pinagbigyan mo ng love mo, aba para ka na ring nanalo sa lotto. Pero mas maganda sana kung mahal kana niya tapos nanalo kapa sa lotto - pero sabi nga nila "you can't have it all"
4. Nakakabobo, yes you read it right, kahit gaano kapa katalino mapa cum laude, magna cum laude, summa cum laude or honorable mention ka man kapag tinamaan ka nyan daig mo pa ang pakiramdam ng nag eexam o kaya yung tinawag ka ng teacher mo para sa recitation pero wala kang maisagot, nakaka mental block!
5. Nakakaubos ng lakas lalo na kung ikaw lang yung nag eeffort. Akala ko dati mga beki lang yung nakakaubos ng lakas pero mali pala ako, may mas matindi pa pala dun.
6. Pero isa sa pinakamasarap na pakiramdam kasi pag inlove ka may inspirasyon ka (the brighter side of being inlove).
7. It should always be right, it should bring the best out of you pero you'll know it's wrong when it is already bringing the beast out of you. Kung ganun na ang nangyayari aba mag isip isip kana "is this still love? or just pure attachment?".
8. Is simple yet people make it soooooo complicated. Mahal mo at alam mong mahal ka rin pero magpapaligoy ligoy pa. Mahal mo, hindi ka mahal pero mamahalin mo pa rin kahit forever kang friendzoned, sisterzoned, seenzoned at kung ano ano pang may zoned sa dulo mairelate lang sa current situation nyo. Mahal mo na pero takot ka, kung takot ka bakit mo minahal? You shouldn't entertained the feeling in the first place if you're not ready, kasi you are just wasting both of your time. Sorry alam ko hindi tayo close pero ang sakit ko na magsalita (that thing called tadhana syndrome). Naniniwala ako na kung mahal mo panindigan mo, huwag kang matakot masaktan. Push lang, kung hindi ka mahal then look for another one malay mo hindi pa pala siya si "The one" isa lang pala syang instrumento para kapag dating ni "The one" handang handa kana, nanginginig at mainit init pa. (FYI itong part na ito ay R18 - aral muna bago landi)
Bottom line: Love is perfect, but people are not so okay lang magkamali pero huwag mo naman gawing hobby you should also learn from your experiences to be a better lover in the future.
Painful regrets
There's nothing more painful than regrets.
Aside sa pag bebreak nyong jowa mo isa pa sa pinakamasakit na dumarating sa buhay ng isa tao yung regrets. "Sana ganito" "sana ganun" "sana pala nakinig ako" "sana hindi ako nasaktan". Siguro sa buhay ko ngayon, kaya ako naging ganito na easy-going, go lang ng go (parang globe commercial lang lol), yung tipong "young, wild and free - living" dahil takot akong mawala ng hindi ko man lang naexperience yung mga bagay na kailan man hindi matutumbasan ng pera, yung mga bagay na maibabahagi ko sa mga apo ko pag tanda ko. Gusto ko kasi marinig sa kanila na "alam mo ba yung lola ko, ang cool nyan! Super naenjoy nya yung pagkabata nya, gusto kong maging katulad nya, hindi sya nakisabay sa norm at hindi sya natakot maging iba sa komunidad na kinabibilangan nya" oh diba ang sarap? Gusto ko yung ganun, ayoko yung buhay na work hard today, then travel later or do what you want later. Baka laspag na ako bago ko pa magawa yung mga bagay na sana nuon ko pa ginawa. As of now i only have one regret, it is i was so materialistic and i shop so much and i regret not saving kahit konting part ng sahod ko (syempre until now regret pa rin lol)
People and differences
To the places i've been i have learned alot of things:
1. Natuto akong makibagay
2. Natuto akong magadjust
3. Natuto akong maging sensitive.
4. Natutunan kong hindi lahat ng tao pare pareho, may kanya kanya tayong paniniwala at iba't ibang kultura we just have to respect each other, yes! it is the key to a harmonious relationship with other people.
5. In this world i learned to be open minded and because of that i learned to connect with other people most especially to the locals and adapt their ways but it doesn't mean that i have to forget my own principles and beliefs, it is just a matter of acceptance.
Kaya i will always be proud for being Filipino and i love our county (yes! Loud and proud) kasi diversed tayo, san kapa diba sa 7,107 islands ng pilipinas hinati hati tayo sa iba't ibang probinsya, may iba't ibang dialects at paniniwala pero we are still considered as one.
End note for this post - uulitin ko po ang mga nakasulat sa taas ay pawang opinyon at mga bagay na natutunan ko sa dalawangpu't apat na panunuluyan ko sa mundo.
"You're the captain of your own ship, the pilot of your own plane, the painter of your own masterpiece, the writer of your own story so make the most out of it."
-The lakwatserang negra
NOTE: All photos are mine - unless I put credits to it
NOTE: All photos are mine - unless I put credits to it
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